Rule number five: Use all the help that comes your way.
Gone forever are the days when I’d rather do it myself. I have learned about the inestimable value of helping hands. If some one asks, “Is there anything I can do for you?” I will probably respond, “Yes!”
In fact, there is something so satisfactory about sharing work with a friend, coordinating an evening for a large group in conjunction with someone else’s gifts and ideas that I will probably never again attempt to solo navigate through another huge affair!
Many a pleasurable evening has been co-hostessed with other women in the church. These have become opportunities for knowing one another as well as ministering.
A friend and I once recognized that many new couples needed to become acquainted with each other. We jointly planned a crepe dinner. We each flipped one hundred of these thin French pancakes, served punch for the appetizer, a sauce of mushrooms, ham, and sour cream for the main dish, and offered several choices—raspberry and peach melba, butterscotch and almonds, some thing chocolate—for dessert.
She provided chafing dishes and extra utensils, a large coffee server, and placemats. My contribution was the home and the beverages. We set up tables in every room downstairs, with punch bowls in several places, and enjoyed the evening getting acquainted ourselves.
I am no longer afraid to ask someone to toss the green salad I didn’t have time to put together, or to fry bacon for those hurried after-church brunches. My family has learned to lend invaluable assistance. They rally in that last hour before guests arrive—David takes care of dinner music and “licks and promises,” those getting-children-presentable details. My oldest son, Randall, is in charge of ice and water. My daughter, Melissa, arranges appetizers and serves them. All are expected to be on standby in case of emergencies.
For breakfasts my husband is generally the chef-in-command, seeing as he has an eager hand with an egg and experience working as a short-order cook, which includes skill in flipping pancakes, turning browned sausages, and rounding off ground meat patties just so.
Karen Mains has long had an interest in Christian hospitality and is the author of the best-selling book, Open Heart, Open Home.
An award-winning author of several other books, Karen continues to write content for her Christian blog, “Thoughts-by-Karen-Mains.” In so doing, she desires to touch the lives of Christian women and men and help them find ways to walk closer with the Lord Jesus Christ. In addition, through silent retreats, spiritual teaching, women’s retreats, Christian vacation opportunities, and other ministry activities, Karen helps each Christian woman and man receive vital spiritual food.
For decades, Karen Mains and her husband, David, have served God through religious communications—radio, television, and print publication. The are the co-authors of the Kingdom Tales Trilogy: Tales of the Kingdom, Tales of the Resistance, and Tales of the Restoration. To find many valuable resources for pastors and churches at the Mainstay Ministries main website, please click here.
In addition, pastors will find special resources to help them create effective, life-transforming Sunday sermons by visiting David Mains’ website by clicking here.
Through her Hungry Souls ministry, Karen serves as a spiritual coach to many Christian women and men, and teaches a mentor-writing class. And, through the Global Bag Project, she is working to develop a network of African women who sew exquisite cloth reusable shopping bags. This microfinance women opportunity helps provide a much-needed sustainable income for struggling African families. For more information on this critically important project, please click here.